I would like to take this opportunity to point out, on behalf of men everywhere, a few simple points.
As 'guys' we need to be handled carefully. Especially by the other side of the aisle.
Ladies.... a few things to consider... that might help at the oddest times.
You must understand... Guys have limitations, and strong points. Good and bad, special and common, it's the mix of these points that make each guy what he is.
Guys are thick about certain issues. No matter how 'sensitive' we seem to be, it's to be expected we will miss some things. On occasion.... the loving touch of a two by four might be required to redirect us towards what you want noticed. Even then, some wind up, maybe a few spot lights, highlights, and bold type will help the cause.
Guys can be a bit childlike at times, no matter their age. Once involved in play, we don't want to come home. Even the 'home' of the serious side of the conversation. Play is important to us, for all sorts of reasons. Mostly because it's fun, and we are partly just big kids. Did I mention that already? Once we are involved in play.... an amount of coaxing is required, once again, to redirect us towards the goal. The better the play, the stronger the redirection will have to be.
If the play is going too well... best to just play along and tackle the 'issue' a little later.
Guys usually need a moment to deal with.... ah.... singular events needing nearly perfect responses. If the guys response is highly valued, time must be given for it to formulate. If not.... said guy might respond poorly, ruining said moment.
Surely, guy will be sorry later, but that won't return the moment. Give him time...
but not enough to start playing again.
Guys have a very deep capacity for love. It's just buried under a lot of other crap.
It's a sad situation, but sometimes you have to dig through the crap to get to the treasure. Once found, it's usually worth it.
Guys can't help being... guys. It might be fun to punish us for it, but it really is pointless. Might as well kick a dog for being furry... and you would never do that, would you? Better to try and train us. More fun, and sometimes it actually works.
Contrary to popular notion, when some guys say they love you, they mean it more than you could possibly know.
5 comments:
it sounds to me like you need a hug.
Humph...
Well... I would never turn down a hug from a lovely woman.
That's kind of a life rule...
No... I think I need a few days riding alone in the truck to clear my head, mixed with some Vivaldi, and another day spent communicating... Weird as that might sound.
Serious lack of people to talk to some days... sigh.
Thanks for the thought Breda... you are a treasure yourself!
Yeah, the training bit is rewarding for both parties, ideally.
Enjoy that ride.
Red Green: [explains why men don't ask for directions when they're lost] Primarily, it's a pride thing: we're out there in our own vehicles, burning gas, got the sunglasses on, looking good. People seeing us going by would have no idea where we are. And we're not really excited about sharing that information. A man does not embrace the concept of going up to total strangers and saying, "You may not know this, but I'm a moron," whereas the woman he's with is only too happy to share that information. I think that helps ease her burden a little. See, to a woman, getting lost on a trip is just a blameless act of nature. But to a man, it's a sign of personal failure. He knew where he was when left; he doesn't know where he is now. Somewhere along the way, he crossed the line between the world he knows and the world he doesn't know. And that's exactly how he felt about when he got married, and when he had kids. So if he admits he's lost in his car, he's gonna have to admit he's lost in those other areas as well. That's way too much to ask. So just sit there, bite your tongue, circle the block a couple of times. Men aren't lost, they just take the long way.
Lin...
I am NEVER lost. I always know exactly where I am, which is right there. Now... other places, even places I am going... they can be lost at times.
But me, I am always right where I am, and that is never lost.
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